Since I revealed in one of my most recent posts, that I was a survivor of sexual harassment and assault, I wanted to thank all the women of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements for motivating me to come forward and tell my story. For the longest time all I wanted was change, a change in society and how others view Sexual Assault and Harassment. For the longest time, I wanted justice for myself and others who have suffered at the hands of men in power…and you know what? It finally happened. All because of one movement, called #MeToo.
The #MeToo movement was started by Founder Tarana Burke, a survivor of Sexual Assault. She is also the co-founder of an organization called, Just Be Inc. that focuses on helping to improve the health and well-being of young women of color.
On why Tarana started the movement, she tells CNBC, “I had always wanted to do work around sexual violence in the community.” Tarana says, “As a survivor I started thinking about what that would look like and what I needed at that age. That’s when we came up with ‘me too’.”
Then, the words ‘Me Too’ started trending on twitter after ‘Charmed’ Actress Alyssa Milano had used it in one of her tweets in support of all the women who came forward to reveal that they had been Sexually Assaulted and Harassed by Hollywood film producer, Harvey Weinstein.
A domino effect broke out. One by one. women of color, Actress. Mother. Daughter. Father. son. Sister. Teacher. Student. Co-worker. Co-star, domestic worker, Gymnast followed suit. every woman who had suffered at the hands of this powerful man in Hollywood, came out. A little known FACT: my father went to school with Harvey Weinstein (and his brother) & you know what he said when he heard these women telling their stories and what Harvey had done to them? “He was an asshole back then and he still is now.” Boom.
I believe my dad. and I believe every survivor.
I was not only heartbroken, but really proud of these women who decided to come forward and share their stories with the world. I started using the #MeToo hashtag along with them. Not only because of my experience, but because it has happened to women all over the world, to my friends and my mother who was sexually harassed as a young girl working in the fashion industry, the male managers would rub their genitals against the back of her chair, they would get her (along with her other female co-workers) to dress in skimpy outfits, like short skirts and dresses just so they can “have a little peak underneath” a peak? nah. they wanted to see everything.
I wanted to be apart of this #MeToo movement because I was raised to know that I could be a strong, independent woman. I wanted to be apart of a powerful societal change.
And that change has already begun. and will not end anytime soon.
The #MeToo movement has not only allowed women to come forward with their experiences, but also it has also brought about an awakening within women, an awakening that feels good, comfortable and SAFE.
By standing together in support of the #MeToo movement we are allowing ALL women to feel the deserved freedom to speak the truth.
It has also sparked some heated, but much needed long overdue conversations, such as; ‘Should you work (or not work) with someone who is a rapist?’
“What is the difference between Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault?”
consensual sex vs non-consensual sex talk
(“does no actually mean no?”)
“when a woman wears ‘sexy’ or a ‘risque’ outfits does it mean that she wants to have sex?”
“bad date’ or sexual assault?”
(when a man tells a woman to stand in front of a mirror and bends her over and asks her, “how do you want to be fucked?” and then makes her give him oral sex, while she repeatedly tells him she feels uncomfortable, she does it” ONLY BECAUSE SHE FEELS TRAPPED AND SCARED FOR HER FUCKING LIFE. )
“victim or crying wolf?”
These are the types of educational talks that were sparked from the #MeToo movement.
Although some of them seem a bit controversial, it’s important for us to talk about it and debate, argue, do whatever we have to do to ensure that this does not happen again. And that no survivor shall ever be shamed because of what happened to them.
Because we are not “victims”, we are survivors.
And this isn’t a “moment”, it’s a movement.
It’s changing how people view sexual assault and harassment, how people can shame women just because of what they wear the night they were raped unconsciously by a boy who didn’t know the meaning of ‘no’.
no means no.
Consent = saying yes and actually wanting to have sex with the other person.
non-consent = rape. it’s a violation of woman’s body, without their permission. they don’t want to have sex with you! no means exactly what you think it means. it doesn’t fucking matter if they don’t say it, if they are drunk, don’t have sex with them. if they are unconscious, don’t fucking have sex with them. simple as that.
Now because of the movement, men are definitely becoming more cautious, more compassionate about what women (including men) have gone through. Maybe not Harvey Weinstein or Kevin Spacey, or Dustin Hoffman, or Woody Allen, or Aziz Ansari, or Mario Batali, or Brett Ratner, or Matt Lauer, or Danny Masterson, or Steven Segal, or Jeremy piven, or Ed Westwick, Al Franken, Louis C.K., Larry King, Ben Affleck, Mark Schwahn and James Toback.
Not just because they are dirty, disgusting assholes who deserve what is coming to them, but because they silenced women. They violated women. They ruined their voices, and they ruined their souls.
But the #MeToo movement has changed all of that, women have become louder. They have made their voices heard throughout every news/media publication, women’s march and award shows.
That is exactly why the #Metoo movement is hear to stay. rage on my sisters!
In celebration of today’s women’s march i will post some photos of it below and also here is a look at a movie called ‘The light of the Moon’, It tells a brutally honest and powerful story about a young architect named Bonnie who is sexually assaulted on a night out with her friends in Brooklyn. The aftermath of the assault is obviously painful, but it brings about an awakening in Bonnie who begins to realize that she can’t hide from her assault anymore and won’t be silenced. You will see how she deals with the aftermath of the assault and how it affects her relationship, work and friendships. Again it is so important that we as women are not known as ‘victims’, but we are survivors. It does not matter what we wear, or how much alcohol we consume…rape is rape. And it is NEVER our fault. So pls watch the film!
stay strong and keep fighting my loves.
‘The light of the moon’ is Directed by Film Writer Jessica M. Thompson
and stars: Brooklyn Nine-Nine actress Stephanie Beatriz, Michael Stahl-David and ‘How to get away with murder’ Conrad Ricamora
“Larry, you do realize now that we, this group of women you so heartlessly abused over such a long period of time, are now a force and you are nothing,” – Aly Raisman giving her abuser Larry Nassar a piece of her mind, when giving her testimony in court this week.
Moved by @tereraitrent’s words and wisdom. Listening to her interview on the podcast @goodlifeproject and found myself continually nodding, saying yes yes yes. When women rise up in a society – it benefits EVERYONE. • As we approach the anniversary of the @womensmarch this weekend, I’ll be making poster designs available for download. Stay tuned and send me your ideas/requests.
#MMIW @sunny_redbear – ✊🏽❤️ We have lost too many sisters, too many mothers, cousins, aunties, friends to trafficking, to kidnapping, to murders. Our number of missing women rises every year- an unknown number (1,000-4,000)- a haunting number- that leaves no answers for loved ones. No why? Who? Or how?… We are left to mourn our sisters but we will not mourn in silence. Continue to fight to spread the word on Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women, in all ways you know how! Our voices together cannot be drowned out! NO MORE STOLEN SISTERS! #MMIW #womensmarch #2018 #rapidcity #southdakota #nativewomen #nativewomenrising #march #useyourvoice #feminism #powerful #reclaimyourpower #blackhills #lakota
#womensmarchla via whatsimada
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Oprah. that is all. #MeToo #TIMESUP via NBC